What worries do children of all ages have in common when it is time to go back to school?
How can parents and grandparents comfort them, prepare them, and pray for them?
Having just retired from teaching for thirty years in grades K-8 and having children and four grandchildren of my own (grades K, 2, 4, 6), I know that the first day of school can be stressful and worrisome for children and parents.
As adults, we sometimes forget the doubts and fears we had about starting school or moving on to the next grade.
My goal is to bring those doubts and fears to the forefront and give tips and strategies for making sure our children/grandchildren feel comforted and understood.
Children and teens can be anxious about:
- Which teachers will I get, and will they be mean or nice?
- Will I miss my parents?
- Will they be there when I get home?
- Will any of my friends be in my classes, and will I fit in?
- What if I am not listening and the teacher calls on me?
- Will the students laugh at me?
- Who will I sit with at lunch?
- If I have a locker with a combination, will I forget it or not be able to open it?
- Will I get lost trying to find my classes and be late?
- What if I don’t understand the homework?
How Can Parents and Grandparents Help?
- Set A Routine:
At least one week before school starts, make every effort to have regular and nutritious meals for the family. Eat together, and share how each member of the family feels about the start of school.
Start a regular bedtime and wake up at the right time each morning.
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2. Encourage your child to share their feelings, worries, and fears.
At a time and in a place that is distraction free, so your child knows they have your full attention, ask them what worries or concerns they have about starting school.
Assure them that what they are feeling is okay and normal and that there is nothing wrong with them.
Instead of reassuring them with, “Don’t worry, everything will be okay,” or “I’m sure those things will not happen,”come up with a plan of attack to solve, “What is the worst that can happen?
Example: Role play
What if you…?
What could you do to solve the problem?
Let’s think of a couple of ways you could handle the situation!
End on a positive note:
What are two exciting things about school starting?
3. Pray for them and with them:
Click on this link to see an infographic by Rebecca Barlow Jordan
In the next blog, I will share Bible verses that you can pray for your child…
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